So I wrote a post the other day about balancing work and rest. From the feedback, it seems that many of us struggle with finding that sacred “Me Day”. However, that “Me Day” is crucial to getting the rest that you deserve. So I figured I’d do a follow up post on how I schedule my “Me Day” and make sure it stays that way.
Before I schedule my “Me Day” I need to figure out what days are off limits. I am the Queen of double booking myself so this helps me walk through my month and schedule all important dates. This include work functions, church events, birthday dinners, meetings, etc. Anything and everything that I can possible schedule.
Ideally for me, that’s on a Saturday. I find one day where I’m doing absolutely nothing and I mark it in my calendar as my “Me Day”. What if I can’t find a Me Day? Then I create one. I’ll explain that more after I finish telling you my steps.
Book the hotel. Make the appointment. Save the money. The reason why I do it immediately is because I don’t want any surprises when my “Me Day” arrives. Trust me. I’m telling you this from experience. You’ll thank me later. There was one day I had planned to go to the spa. That month was a busy one and I knew I would’ve desperately needed a spa day. I called the day before and there was no availability. I called multiple spas around me and there was no availability!! I almost cried. I learned my lesson. I schedule everything in advance.
This is my favorite part. Whenever I’m having a rough day it’s comforting to know a Me Day is around the corner. I LOVE Countdowns. I literally use a countdown for everything. It’s sweet to see the sacred Me Day drawing near.
Okay Tosin, this is all great but what if I really can’t find a Me Day or once I’ve scheduled my Me Day something else comes up.
First of all, you should never be too busy where you can’t find one day out of 30 or 31 days. It’s just not healthy. Even if you have to call out of work- find that day. Your body and mind will thank you later.
However, there are some events that people like to invite you to last minute. Do you go? Especially, if the event falls on your already scheduled “Me Day”? We all face those last minute decisions. Maybe it’s a church member’s baby shower, an impromptu meeting, or a last minute call from your girlfriend asking you to follow her to a party. How do you decide if you should really honor the request. Let’s get some things straight first:
Many of us feel bad for saying no to events. Stop it. It is okay to say no. Now please use wisdom. If you say no to the same person every single time, you might want to strongly consider going. However, if you usually attend their events, I promise you they won’t stop inviting you to their functions because you decline this one. If you say yes to every single request that comes your way when will you ever find time for yourself? Please. Don’t feel bad about saying no.
Your sister is getting married. Of course, you can’t say no! Your coworker has invited you to his mother’s 50th birthday party. It’s a thoughtful gesture but do you really need to be there? How can you still honor the invitation without actually being there? These are things that you need to think through. More often than not, when we get to one of those “do I really need to come to this” events we ending up wishing we were at home.
I put together an infographic that can help your decision process. The bottom line, don’t feel bad saying no!