3 Reasons Why You Need to Let Go of What is Not Yours

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There’s a picture that floats around social media that gets me every time. It’s a picture of a little girl holding on to her teddy bear. God wants to give her a bigger and better teddy bear but she doesn’t want to let go of hers because she’s unsure of what she will get.

Just trust Me

It’s such a perfect visual of how we act in our daily lives. We have the tendency to become way too attached to things, people and places that we fail to realize when we have outgrown what we are so desperately trying to hold on to or when it is just not good for us. However, our minds can’t always fathom there being something better for us; it’s hard for us to see past right now. We don’t trust God enough to give us His best; we want to see it first before we let go.

There was a time I was holding on to my own teddy bear. For eight long months I wouldn’t let it go. I couldn’t let it go. For me, my teddy bear was a relationship. It just had to work. He came in after a tumultuous rollercoaster and I thought “Surely, he’s heaven sent”. But he wasn’t. I was being stubborn and God literally had to rip the teddy bear from my hand. It was painful; but it was necessary. I learned 3 key things from that experience.

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Let’s be honest with ourselves. You know in your heart that the relationship isn’t for you or you’re in the wrong career or you made a bad business move. You know for a fact that where you are is in a completely different direction than where you need to be. But you can’t let go because that’s all you know. Plus, you don’t want to start all over (that was my issue). So you start forcing a square peg into a round hole. At this point you are clearly seeing that this situation has become a burden. You give off this perception that you’re so happy but instead you’re extremely stressed because you’re pulling all the weight in the relationship. Or because you really hate your job but can’t quit because then you’ll be admitting to everyone that warned you not to take the position that they were correct. Or because you just lost a large amount of money investing in something that you had no business in. But you’re stubborn and still refusing to let go of what’s not yours. Instead of letting go, you’re up late at night planning ways to turn this burden into a blessing. You can’t even put your teddy bear down for 2 seconds without the fear that someone will come and take it-or worse, your teddy will get up and leave. That’s not a blessing. That’s paranoia. A bad sign. What is for you, is for you and it will work. Stop trying to force what God hasn’t sent.

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Eventually something or someone that is not for you does one of two things. Either it leaves or it stays and makes you miserable. When that happens we begin to blame ourselves, the people around us, or God. We start trying to figure out what we did wrong, or how someone interfered with our plan or why God doesn’t love us. We know that God’s word will not return to Him void. If it’s from Him, it’ll come to pass. If it’s from Him it will always be for our good. All our negative thoughts are really just the enemy feeding us lies. He gets us to a point where we begin to doubt the greatness inside of us and we lose faith in God. If you’re not careful, that blame game can quickly turn into bitterness. We cast blame when, in actuality, it didn’t work simply because it wasn’t suppose to work. Instead of letting go and waiting for God’s best we are expecting God to bless our mess.

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This is the big one. Do you see that BIG teddy bear that God wants to bless you with? Do you think you’d be holding on to your tiny bear if you really saw what God had in store for you? I guarantee you’d drop yours real quick! Holding on so tightly to your teddy bear doesn’t give God room to place something better into your hands. Remember, holding on to something that isn’t yours becomes a burden. But God already said that he will take our burdens from us. When you don’t give Him your burden He can’t give you your blessing. Let me tell you how real this is. Remember I told you I held on to my teddy bear for 8 months? One week after I let it go, my blessing was in my hand. One Week Later. Now I’m not saying your turnaround will be that quick-God’s timing is best. But if I didn’t let go- or rather if God didn’t force me to let go- I would have missed my blessing. Too many times we miss our blessing holding on to what’s not for us.

When you do let go, your story becomes beautiful. The waiting will be worth it. Let Go and Let God. It’s so cliche; but it’s so real. I’ve tested it and found it to be true. Life doesn’t always pan out the way we plan. So just relax and wait for God’s directions. He created us and knows the steps we should take.

I read a great book by Pete Wilson, Plan B. The book talks honestly about the disappointing detours of life and what to do while you’re waiting. I recommend this book for anyone who feels like life just isn’t going the way you expected. It’s sure to bring hope in your darkest moments. You can get the book here.

This book will bless you!

Let Go. Let God.

3 Reasons to Let Go

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18 Comments

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    Melissa @ Think About Such Things
    July 28, 2017 at 2:58 pm

    Girl…you are preaching to me! This is so good. I’ve seen this in my own life and the life of some of my friends. I am going to check out that book Plan B. This past season plan A is long gone. It’s hard, but I am trusting God to see me through. Thank you for writing this!

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      Tosin Moji
      August 1, 2017 at 11:44 am

      The book is amazing! You’ll love it.

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    Yoora
    July 28, 2017 at 7:03 pm

    Yes, so true!! I think it’s also tempting to put the (sole) blame on the other person, which can lead to bitterness (the ugly byproduct of pride and self-righteousness).

    But, as you said, “when you do let go, your story becomes beautiful.” (I also wrote a post on breakup and I think you’ll relate! https://www.chasethewisdom.com/paradox-beautiful-breakup/)

    P.S – I love the alliteration!

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      Tosin Moji
      August 1, 2017 at 11:44 am

      Thank you dear! I’m definitely going to check out your post.

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    Kelly Kimmell
    August 10, 2017 at 9:38 am

    Amazing post and so true. I agree that not letting go of things definitely blocks our blessings. Can’t wait to read more posts.

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      Tosin Moji
      August 10, 2017 at 9:56 am

      Awww thanks for stopping by Kelly! Appreciate it.

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    Amanda
    August 10, 2017 at 2:35 pm

    Love this post, so honest and gives some great advice. I totally agree with your last point too. Holding on to something can really prevent you from achieving or receiving bigger and better things!

    Amanda | http://ldnrose.com

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      Tosin Moji
      August 11, 2017 at 3:07 pm

      Thank you so much Amanda! 🙂

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    Jessica
    August 10, 2017 at 4:08 pm

    Such an awesome post! It’s so hard to let go of things but once we do it feels so good!

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      Tosin Moji
      August 11, 2017 at 3:08 pm

      It totally does! Thanks for stopping by Jessica

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    Rebekah Christie
    August 10, 2017 at 7:54 pm

    Amen sister! You are absolutely right. I feel like I needed this in my life, thank you

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      Tosin Moji
      August 11, 2017 at 3:09 pm

      Awww Rebekah, I’m glad it spoke to you. We thank God! Good bless you sweet sister.

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    Joyce
    August 10, 2017 at 9:32 pm

    Such a great post. I love the point about “it becomes a burden” – God never intended us to cary the load on our own, in fact he asks us to bring our burdens to Him but sometimes we tend to think we are self sufficient and unfortunately our pride always leads us astray. Thanks for sharing 🙂

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      Tosin Moji
      August 11, 2017 at 3:10 pm

      Oh pride!! We need to whip it into submission!! Thanks for that Joyce 🙂

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    Nikhila- Nikki's Talk
    August 12, 2017 at 7:47 am

    So beautifully written. All the three reasons you have pointed out are spot on.

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      Tosin Moji
      August 14, 2017 at 10:05 pm

      Thank you! God bless 😄

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    Cherralle
    August 12, 2017 at 8:12 am

    Such an important lesson. To let go truly sets us free to explore and achieve greater things !

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      Tosin Moji
      August 14, 2017 at 10:05 pm

      Amen! Yes it does. Thanks for stopping by Cherralle.

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