GUEST POST: The Problem With “The One”


Today I am so excited to introduce you to Christina, a beautiful young lady that blogs over at Intentional You. I read one of her posts and knew I just had to share her gift with you all. I pray it blesses you!


We ought to pray that whoever is in our path would be able to see the work God is doing in our hearts, by way of our attitudes, actions, and words.

The idea of a soul mate or “other half” comes from Greek mythology. Part of the myth includes this idea that humans were split in half and lived their life in pursuit of their other half of their soul. If this ideology was true, we would be absolutely miserable if we did not find our other half. There would be no chance for purposeful living if purpose were contingent on finding another person to complete us. Also, what if that one person marries someone else? What if “the one” picks another one? There are too many “what ifs” for this way of thinking.

If we believe that there is only one possible person out there for us to marry, it also points to distrust in God’s sovereignty. In Christ, we are complete. Colossians 2:10 says we are “complete through [our] union with Christ.” If we have a relationship with Christ, we have enough. Christ + nothing=everything. This equation gives us no need for something extra to be fulfilled while on this Earth. God does not give us relationships because we need them; He gives them to us because they can point others or us to the love of Jesus. 1 John 4:12 says that while no one has seen God, “if we love one another, God abides in us and His love is perfected in us.” This can apply to any type of human relationship: family, friend, dating, marriage. Whether in a season of having a romantic relationship or not, we should be able to say “Jesus, you are more than enough for me.”

When our focus is on finding “the one”, we stop working on ourselves. “The one” becomes this idol in our hearts. Instead of focusing on finding “the one”, Steven Furtick says we should focus on “being the one”. We put so much energy and thought on this idea of this figurative person that we forget that a real active God is in the process of pursuing us. He is making us into the woman of God that He wants us to be. 2 Corinthians 5:17 speaks of the new creation we are when we are in Christ. As a new creation, we are continually learning how to walk, talk, and behave in light of this new life.

God is putting new passions, goals, and aptitudes in our hearts, as we yield our hearts to Him. We ought to pray that whoever is in our path would be able to see the work God is doing in our hearts. We should be praying that others can see that God is truly more than enough for us.

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Christina Price

Christina is a blogger, amateur cook, and teacher of young minds living in Coastal North Carolina with her sassy tabby cat. She never thought she’d be going public with her writing, but God doesn’t give you words to  keep to yourself. Subscribe to her blog for encouragement of how to live an intentional life in a chronically compulsive world. You can connect with Christina on her blog or Facebook

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  • Reply
    Sue Donaldson
    August 9, 2017 at 5:19 pm

    I love your post. I used to pray, “Lord I know you are enough but why don’t I feel that way as a single?” He had lots to teach me (still does, of course.) I didn’t think necessarily there was even one for me – as I laid my life down for Him and Him alone. He got me married (miracles happen) at age 35 and I had my third daughter at almost 44 (oops!) and what He taught me as a single was the best thing to prepare me for marriage. Still learning, as I said. And marriage continues to keep me working on myself!

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      Tosin Moji
      August 10, 2017 at 9:48 am

      I love your story! God’s timing is always perfect!

  • Reply
    August 10, 2017 at 6:17 am

    I guess there is that problem with the one, however for my husband and I it was so clear. The day I met him, God had told me I was meeting ‘him’ except I was only 14 and had told God I would do anything except boys, and God told him that he was meeting the one and he thought he had heard seriously wrong because he was 8 years my senior. Yet God had given his dad a vision of me years earlier when I would have only been 9. We courted for nearly 6 years before we got married.

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      Tosin Moji
      August 10, 2017 at 9:47 am

      Oh wow! Thank you for sharing your story. God Bless 🙂

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